Does the thought of turning 30 scare you? (2024)

Turning 30 can be a significant milestone in a person's life, marking the end of a decade and the beginning of a new one. For many people, the thought of turning 30 can bring about a wide range of emotions, from excitement to anxiety and even fear.

It's a time when one's youth is coming to an end, and the pressure to have achieved certain milestones, such as a successful career or a stable relationship, can feel overwhelming.

Inside someone's head, there may be a sense of introspection and reflection, as they take stock of their life so far and consider their goals for the future.

The pressure to have it all figured out by the time you turn 30 can be immense, leading to self-doubt and a fear of failure. However, it's essential to remember that everyone's journey is different, and there's no right or wrong way to approach this new chapter in life.

I asked the same question to fellow creators and this is what they said...

Nearing to 30s feels scary for sure to me because you are expected to settle by then both personally and professionally. I am 27 so the pressure to get married is just beginning from outside.

Even I feel like I need to find someone before I turn 30. It feels lonely as all your friends are settled and moved cities/countries. Life is not the same again. Priorities are changing, responsibilities are increasing.

On the bright side, I enjoy my company more. I feel optimistic about my future. There are going to be certain expectations of people from us but entertaining as much as suits you is the way to be.

Being 30 is scary. I was told that time is running out and I should stop experimenting with my life like I did in my 20s and better get serious. But, I realized that I wasn’t insincere in my 20s. I just took the paths which I thought would take me to my desired destinations. I have had my share of success and failures.

As a 30 something guy, I no longer feel the obligation to comply with what people say or think about me. I openly say Good Night to parties I get invited to, as and when required as I am learning the art of self-prioritization. My happiness is now more dependent on what I can do and not on what others can do for me.

I have a level of self-awareness that helps me accept or reject advice. Not only that, I am now more clear about the kind of lifestyle I want and where my money deserves to be spent. I have been a bucket of mistakes in my 20s but now, I am trying to become a bouquet of optimism to focus on what I could do to make my next decade better.

My birthday falls in the first week of the new year so it always triggers the fresh start syndrome but this year it did so more than ever before because it was the big 30 plus I was due to deliver my baby shortly after!

It made me reflect on the 20s gone by and even more on what I'd like my thirties to look like. I'd say I'm mid transformation right now.

It's definitely just a number but why waste a chance to reinvent?

Sometimes it gets overwhelming. There might be more responsibilities coming my way. I am already handling a lot and I don't know if I can manage everything at that level. Also, I haven't achieved most of my goals on time, so I keep thinking what if I can't achieve anything by 30? What will I do then?

I know I am still young and there's a lot of time, but sometimes I feel like things are not working out.

Another thing is that nostalgia hits me harder these days because I have gone through 3-4 groups of people around me. First, there were my school friends, then college friends, then the people I worked with or freelanced with. So I miss the things I had before, even though I enjoy the present phase.But this has also helped me appreciate the people around me more.

Where do these feelings come from?

These feelings of anxiety and uncertainty about turning 30 stem from a combination of societal and personal expectations, as well as the realization that time is passing and certain goals or milestones may not have been achieved yet.

Society places a significant emphasis on youth and achieving certain milestones by a certain age, such as finishing education, getting married, starting a family, or achieving career success.

As we approach 30, we may feel a sense of pressure to have achieved these milestones or be on track to achieve them, leading to feelings of inadequacy or failure.

On a personal level, turning 30 can be a reminder that time is passing and that certain opportunities may have passed us by. We may also be grappling with the realization that our youth is fading and that we are no longer the youngest generation.

All of these factors can intensify the feelings of anxiety and uncertainty as we approach this milestone age.

However, it is important to remember that everyone's journey is different and that there is no right or wrong way to live our lives.

So, how can you get out of this feeling?

Meanwhile, here's my two cents...

I got married at 27, had a child at 28, and I am nothing what the society believed I should be like.

I got divorced. Build a life from scratch and now I am happy single and a mother. So, when this year, aged 34, I got my first few grey hairs. I felt nothing but happy about what I am doing and where I have reached in my life.

I wasn't following any path set for me. But I believed that you get what you deserve, irrespective of the age.

At the same time,

Age isn't just a number. The more you embrace it, the more you can use it to your advantage.

Do you agree?